Author: Thandi Nkomo

Thandi is the 35 year old mother of 3 children who grew up in one of Cape Town’s townships. She met her knight in shining armour while studying at UCT in her first year, before being whisked away to start a family 4 years later. They have two biological children, one adopted daughter, and hope to adopt a boy soon, and complete their family (though they are well aware that in the adoption world, you never say never). Now living in a little town in the Swartland, they enjoy the fresh air while educating their children at home.

Adoption: ‘We chose him’

Posted on Jul 25, 2016 by Thandi Nkomo

Adopting a baby is almost like falling pregnant. You hope for the best but you have no idea ...

Mother’s Day – the bitter and the sweet in equal measure

Posted on May 9, 2016 by Thandi Nkomo

I am their mother because their mothers believe I have everything they need ...

When it comes to adoption, just do it

Posted on Mar 29, 2016 by Thandi Nkomo

There are so many reasons not to adopt, according to some. So many reasons not to complicate your ...

Beautiful, but predicated on loss – this is adoption

Posted on Mar 7, 2016 by Thandi Nkomo

Adoption is beautiful but adoption is predicated on loss. I am thankful that your choice was to put ...

Finding the marvellous in the mundane

Posted on Feb 24, 2016 by Thandi Nkomo

The marvellous far outweighs the mundane, because in the mundane, I see the blessings I do not deserve ...

To the woman mothering my son

Posted on Jan 27, 2016 by Thandi Nkomo

People praise adoptive parents for “taking in someone else’s child and making them their own”, but you know ...

How a birth mother’s sacrifice became our joy

Posted on Dec 15, 2015 by Thandi Nkomo

My daughter's birth mother was thankful. I didn’t want her gratitude. Not at all. I was the one ...

Our biological children gave us permission to adopt

Posted on Nov 12, 2015 by Thandi Nkomo

Adoption is fraught with uncertainties. Our children changed how we would make our choice ...

The privilege of being black adoptive parents

Posted on Oct 19, 2015 by Thandi Nkomo

I dreamed of the day we’d receive our call about a baby we had been matched with. It ...

The 7-year adoption wait

Posted on Oct 5, 2015 by Thandi Nkomo

It has taken us seven years to get past one long detour that seemed to take us off ...

Our adoption story: Three and counting

Posted on Sep 10, 2015 by Thandi Nkomo

Our “one adopted, one biological child” plan has changed a bit. Like life in general, we’ve come to ...

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