Last updated on Jun 21st, 2021 at 04:21 pm

If your relationship is left to run itself for a prolonged time, you may get a well-run home, healthy and happy children, and successful careers, but lose each other (if not yourself) in the process.

In today’s busy and pressured environment, it is important for couples to find time for each other – even if it’s only for a couple of hours.

Have a date night at least once a week

It could be going out to a movie, dinner or drink. Establish a ritual: stick to a particular day of the week so as to plan all your other activities around that fixed day and time.

For example, make Thursday night your night – just the two of you – and use this time to bond, to talk and to remind each other of how much you still love and care for each other.

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The problem with relying on when you will have time is that you may never find the time. With other seemingly more important activities in your lives, the couple night may start to seem unnecessary and insignificant.

The problem with relying on when you will have time is that you may never find the time. With other seemingly more important activities in your lives, the couple night may start to seem unnecessary and insignificant

If you have small children, arrange to have a family member or friend babysit them or come and collect them for a sleepover. Older children more attached to their parents may feel left out, so have another day scheduled for an all-inclusive family time. It could be a Saturday afternoon for example, and that way everyone is happy and has something to look forward to.

Celebrate each other’s birthdays or anniversaries

At the beginning of each year, draw up a plan and decide how and where you will enjoy these special days together. Such vacations not only evoke a sense of adventure and team spirit but create unforgettable memories.

Regularly communicate with each other

A call, a text or an email during the day to keep you in each other’s thoughts will keep the channels of communication open.

Where possible, jog, run or do yoga together, take a shower together, cook together, bath baby together etc.

Maintain physical contact (even if it’s a kiss shared over a pot of boiling spaghetti)

Those few stolen moments throughout the day will keep you close, build up excitement for a quieter more intimate time, and also offer an opportunity to talk about any thoughts and concerns away from the children. This prevents bottled-up feelings that erupt at the wrong place and wrong time.

Establish a set bedtime for children

For example you could have an 8pm bedtime for the children. If you have hyperactive children, having a couple of activities just after dinner is bound to tire them out. That way, you and your partner can have the rest of the night to yourselves.

Where possible, avoid bringing work home or working late into the night

And if you have to, ensure the work is done by the time you both go to bed. Have a strict time management schedule that works for both of you.

Respect the needs of your partner. Relationships do not run on autopilot; they take a conscious, deliberate, mutual and concerted effort.