Last updated on Jun 27th, 2016 at 02:42 pm
Is it realistic to expect to be happy only when in a relationship? Dr John Demartini, human behaviourist, has the answer …
The short answer to this is ‘no’ – in truth, there is only a balanced form of love. Everything else is a one-sided romantic fantasy, or illusion – which is not sustainable.
No one around you is committed to making your life fulfilling and amazing every day, that is primarily up to you. But you can find someone who can help you do what fulfils your life and you, as well as them.
One of the pillars of a stable relationship is understanding each other’s highest values and how they complement each other.?? By this I don’t mean the clichéd values such as honesty, loyalty, humour, and so on…
To truly understand and explore your values hierarchy – determined by what your life demonstrates and not just what you say – use the value-determination tool on my website www.drdemartini.com – it is free and offers great insight into who you are.
No one around you is committed to making your life fulfilling and amazing every day, that is primarily up to you. But you can find someone who can help you do what fulfils your life and you, as well as them
Don’t disregard your quality of life by undermining the important questions which help illuminate your personal values and allow you to be the greatest and most authentic version of yourself.
It is wise to find out what is important to you, and afterwards see where or how your partner’s values align with your own.
This is so that you can both feel loved for who you are – not for someone else’s idea of who you ‘should’ be. When this happens, resentment can build up.
It is essential to know and embrace your personal values and empower all seven primary areas of your life before looking for a partner. Loving partners are magnetised when you are authentic and empowered in as many of the seven areas as possible. The seven areas of life are: mental, vocational, financial, family, social, physical and spiritual.
The more you love others for who they are, the more they will become who you love
By empowering your life in all seven areas, you increase the probability of doing something amazing with someone who is also amazing.
Instead of worrying about finding fleeting happiness, ask yourself, “What are my top three values and how can I fulfil them? What would I absolutely love to do in life? What are the highest priority steps I can take today to achieve this?”
And when you meet your potential partner ask yourself, “What are their top three values and how can I help them become fulfilled?”
The more you love others for who they are, the more they will become who you love. www.drdemartini.com