As my wife and I were planning our last vacation, one of the first things we did was get out a map and plan our route. Whether it was online maps or old fashioned paper maps – they all helped guide us to our destination. As I was looking at the maps spread across our dining room table, I thought, â??wouldnâ??t it be great if there was a map of lifeâ? that could guide you along your lifeâ??s journey?
A personal motivation map giving you those life lessons that one typically learns way too late in life. Does such a â??map of lifeâ? exist? It was then that I stumbled upon a tattered copy of The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho in the bottom of my closet.
Paulo Coelho in his wildly popular book (65 million copies sold in 67 languages) tells the story of a shepherd boy and his quest to live his dream. Along the way, the boy meets an alchemist who has the power to inspire personal transformation. This Alchemist gives the boy a number of lifeâ??s lessons – lessons that are as fresh and applicable today as they were hundreds of years ago. The lessons by themselves are interesting, but itâ??s only when they are applied, that the power of personal transformation can be unleashed.
So what can Paulo teach us about life and pursuing dreams in the face of obstacles that caused 65 million people to buy his book?
1. Itâ??s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary.
I believe this to be true and have experienced this with my own family. When I think of the times where we laughed the most or had the most fun – it was when we were doing the simplest things. Swimming in a pool, combing a beach for shells, playing a board game, or sharing a delicious meal – all simple things making up the best times weâ??ve had as a family. Question: What were some of the happiest memories from your past? What were you doing?
2. Support your children in pursuit of their dreams.
In the beginning of the story the shepherd boy (named Santiago) tells his father he wants to travel and see the world. The father explains he wants his son to stay in the village and become a priest. But Santiago persists – being a priest is not his dream. What does his father do? He gives Santiago the small amount of money he had been saving for the boy and wished him well.
How many of us had parents who have – in not-so-subtle-ways – influenced us to take careers that were not in-line with our dreams? Be honest now, did you pick your current career because youâ??re passionate about the work or were you trying to make your parents proud? How do you feel about your career now?
As a parent, itâ??s difficult to accept when your child wants to take a path other than the one you had hoped and planned for them. But, itâ??s ok. Like my wife keeps telling me â??give them roots and give them wingsâ?. Give them a solid foundation of love, but give them the freedom to follow their dreams. Question: What were some of your dreams as a child?
3. There is nothing to hold you back, except yourself.
There is only one question to ask yourself here: â??What would you do if you were not afraid?â? Think about it.
4. There is only one way to learn and that is through action.
Trying to learn without doing is like trying to lose weight by watching someone else exercise. Itâ??s just not going to work. We are all fundamentally hands-on learners. Question: What would you like to learn? What next action step can you take?
5. Trust your gut (or Learn to recognize omens, and follow them.)
Many times our subconscious has already made a decision before weâ??ve caught up and made the same decision. Sometimes we donâ??t make the same decision and then â??something does not feel rightâ?? or there is a persistent nagging that bothers us. Malcolm Gladwell wrote extensively about this phenomenon in his book titled Blink: The Power of Thinking without Thinking. Trust your gut – it may be more accurate than you think.
6. Follow your dreams.
There are many of us who dream our dreams without ever actually realizing any of them. For whatever reason we get locked in a â??dream stateâ? and never take action. We analyze too much and our dreams turn into giant mountains in our imagination that seem impossible to climb. As a result, we never learned that foreign language weâ??ve always wanted to learn, or traveled, or started that business, or written that book. Just think of the many bestsellers that would have been, but were never written.
The time is now, to awake from dreamland, to live the life we want and to achieve the extraordinary potential within us all. Question: What are some dreams youâ??d like to realize now? Write them down on a piece of paper and make sure the success of their attainment is measurable.
7. Know what you want.
Set goals and make a plan to achieve them. Itâ??s like the saying, â??a goal that is never written down is nothing but a New Yearâ??s resolutionâ? – and we all know what happens to New Yearâ??s resolutions.
8. Make a decision and dive in with massive action.
The river of life will take you to places that you have never imagined. Once you make a decision, take action. Youâ??ll be surprised to find where it will lead.
9. Move on – always look forward.
Itâ??s ok to look back once and a while, but donâ??t live in the past. You can visit â??pity cityâ? for a short time, but after a while you have to leave it all behind and walk on.
10. You will encounter obstacles and take detours while realizing your dreams.
As you strive to achieve your dreams, you can count on there being some setbacks and disappointments. Donâ??t get discouraged, the road to your dreams may not be an easy one. Think of these challenges as tests of persistence and courage that life throws at you during your quest. They were necessary and were meant to help you grow as a person.
Learn to adjust the sails of your life to unpredictable winds, while keeping your focus clear on your destination.
11. Donâ??t fear the unknown.
As long as youâ??re resourceful and have a few skills, youâ??ll be able to provide for yourself (and your family). Have confidence in yourselfat all times.
12. Learn to understand the universal language – the language without words.
There is so much more said from a person than just words alone. You can read the expression on someoneâ??s face, sense their body language, or hear the tone in their voice – these thingsare all part of the unspoken language. The more conscious we become at noticing them, the better we become at interpreting them. Question: What are some subtle unspoken gestures from the language of love?
The Alchemist is a deeply moving, yet simple fable about a shepherd boy living his dreams. Now that Paulo Coelho has taught us his lessons, can we, like an alchemist, change our lives from one of dreaming about our dreams to one of living our dreams? Itâ??s up to us to take action…today!
What are some of your dreams youâ??ve achieved, and how did you achieve them? Share your stories and thoughts with us in the comments section below.
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