Last updated on Jan 21st, 2021 at 08:28 am

We all know toddlers are a handful, especially when they get to the ‘terrible twos’ and then become ‘threenagers’

I remember when my little girl turned two, I felt like I didn’t know her anymore. Who was this child and what happened to my little sweetheart? My husband and I never really discussed methods for discipline, we just went with the flow and did what we thought was right. I think that I am the disciplinarian. You know what they say… daughters are their father’s angels. My husband is a real softie when it comes to my daughter.


I’ve learnt that toddlers have big emotions and they can be really stubborn. Sometimes, as a parent, I get frustrated, but I have realised that being patient and understanding is very important, especially when you are dealing with a two-year-old. Losing my temper isn’t going to solve the problem, instead it will make matters worse.

“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.” –Bette Davis

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There are days when your toddler will wee on the floor, scream for candy in a store, or try to hit you in public when you say ‘No’. You will be tempted to retaliate, but honestly, it’s probably not going to solve the problem in the long run.

5 Quick tips for positive discipline

1. Keep to your toddler’s sleep routine or schedule

I’ve noticed that when my daughter is sleepy, she gets extremely grumpy and starts fighting with everyone. This is when most of her meltdowns happen and if I miss that ‘sleepy time period’ she just refuses to take a nap and will instead throw a tantrum wherever we are. It’s important to have a napping and bedtime schedule and it’s important to stick to it.

2. Be consistent

Have a few rules and stick to them. Having lots of rules can confuse a child and cause more chaos, especially when you negotiate back and forth daily.

3. Reverse the negative

It is possible to discipline without saying ‘No’. I know a mom who ‘sings’ her rules to her toddler.


4. Get down to your child’s level, call your child by his/her name and make eye contact

When I’m serious, I say my daughter’s name. She knows I mean business. I always look into her eyes and explain to her the reason why she won’t be getting what she wants. Toddlers are intelligent and sometimes just speaking to them like an adult helps.

“As your kids grow up they may forget what you said, but they won’t forget how you made them feel.” – Kevin Heath

5. Give your child a choice and try not to yell

I used to be the mom who shouted all the time, but it started to scare my daughter! I could see the fear in her eyes. I now use the ‘time out’ method, but I will whisper it to her: “If you don’t listen, then you will have to sit in time out”. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t, but being consistent helps.

Remember their age and don’t expect too much from them. Toddlers will always try to push the boundaries. Treat mistakes as an opportunity to learn and work together as a team to solve the problem. Reward charts are great to use and can help with positive discipline. My daughter gets extremely excited when she gets a star.

Click here to download a reward chart.

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