‘Back to work blues’ is a reality for many moms – as it dawns on you, that soon you’ll be heading back and entrusting the care of your precious bundle in the hands of a relative stranger. Yikes!
So, you consult a friend, Google or pick up a childcare book or two in hopes of being guided in the best direction.
Well, give your worry-face a rest, because nanny training and placement agencies, Nanny ‘n Me and Super Nannies, have developed five essential steps to make this transition a smoother and more informed one for both mommy and baby.
Here are five ways to make this process easier:
This is arguably the most difficult phase as it sees you making the decision between opting for hiring a nanny or sending your tot to day care or crèche. And really the only way to do it sensibly is to weigh up the advantages and disadvantages of both.
So, let’s start with the advantages of a crèche. Well, the fact that you know that it’s reliable and its availability is not dependent on taxi strikes or illness is a big plus. However, there is never one-to-one care as well as what paediatricians term Crèche Syndrome. Many a mom has said that they spend double their crèche fees per month, once for the crèche and once to the doctor. Your annual leave is also affected this way with doctor’s visits and needing to stay at home with your ill baby.
Research also suggests that sending your child too early to crèche affects their ability to focus due to the high levels of stimulation.
So, why do we think you should choose a nanny?
Let’s go with this example; A young bear is born helpless, blind and hairless and stays with its mother for two-and-a-half years. This is quite similar to what psychologists call the attachment period of our babies. Between birth and two years is when our babies either learn trust or mistrust. Consistently having their needs met in a loving environment lets your baby know that “I am safe, I am loved” and is the cornerstone to their health, well-being and development.
It is this particular individual stimulation of your child that is paramount to their overall development. The good news is that children can safely attach to more than one CONSISTENT caregiver and it helps that your nanny will be providing love and attention in your environment at home. These early relationships form the basis of successful social and emotional development, because as a child nears age three, they are able to cognitively and emotionally relate to others. This also plays a role in the sufficient development of language skills which is needed when they are to enter the playschool environment.