Last updated on Jun 10th, 2021 at 04:55 pm

This Valentine’s Day, Dr Salome Gurgenidze, co-founder of Johannesburg-based aesthetic centre Radiance for You, explains how to make the best of those precious moments.

Strangers fell in love in 94 minutes

Twenty years ago, New York psychologist Professor Arthur Arun succeeded in making two complete strangers fall in love in a laboratory, in just 94 minutes. The study involved a combination of four minutes of staring into each other’s eyes, and 90 minutes of intimate conversation using pre-determined questions. The participants ended up getting married.

“When it comes to attracting a mate, it is absolutely true that first impressions last,” says Gurgenidze.

How do you create a great first impression?

So, if you only have four minutes to create the first impression, where should you start? Gurgenidze has three focus areas to make sure you stand the best chance of falling in love.

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She says that you should start with the “windows to your soul.”

Make your eyes shine (Image source: Pixabay)
Make your eyes shine (Image source: Pixabay)

1.     Make your eyes shine

According to another study, conducted just last year, the eyes are the first feature that both men and women notice on the opposite sex. And while some people are fortunate enough to be born with beautiful bright eyes, fringed with lush lashes and perfectly arched brows, the reality is that most of us could do with a little help cleaning the windows to our soul.

The good news, says Gurgenidze, is that help is readily at hand in today’s modern society.

“If you wear glasses and they make you uncomfortable, try contact lenses. Or investigate the option of laser surgery. If your eyes are constantly red and bloodshot, use eyedrops to keep them moist and bright. Then there’s basic grooming. Have your brows shaped and trimmed. And keep them that way.”

If the problems are less superficial, such as deep hollows under your eyes that make you look constantly tired, or crow’s feet and frown lines that make you look and feel old, there are remedies for that too.

“These days, there are numerous non-invasive means of improving your eye area, such as dermal fillers and anti-wrinkle injectables; simple, safe procedures that enhance the area around the eyes, allowing us to feel completely confident when that someone special wants to gaze longingly into your baby blues, or greens/browns!”

Don’t let the lines disappear

When it comes to the eyes, however, there is one important caveat – if you are having any aesthetic work done, always ensure that the practitioner is not too enthusiastic about erasing every little line. “A real smile should always reach your eyes, but it can’t if the area around your eyes is frozen,” says Gurgenidze.