Last updated on Jun 23rd, 2021 at 11:52 am

Incontinence is an issue faced by many women at different stages of their lives. Because there are so many possible causes for incontinence, it can be difficult to pinpoint why you struggle with bladder control. 

The University of Colorado Urogynecology says that although there are physiological causes for incontinence there are also mental triggers that could be standing in the way of you and holding your pee. 

Do you really need to pee? 

The urge to urinate can be very real even when you know you couldn’t possibly need the toilet again. The study by The University of Colorado found that even with treatment for physical causes of incontinence, many women still suffer from urge incontinence. 

Urge incontinence is when you feel like you desperately need to urinate too frequently for the urge to be reasonable. People living with urge incontinence often feel the desperate urge to urinate that can sometimes even lead to bladder leaks.

Why people suffer from urge incontinence

Most people who suffer from incontinence suffer from stress incontinence where the bladder is physically stressed and squeezed by movement like running, sneezing and laughing which can cause embarrassing and unpredictable leaks. 

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Urge incontinence affects communication between the brain and the bladder where you feel the very real, very urgent need to urinate before leaks even after you have recently been to the bathroom. 

According to the University of Colorado and nationally recognized authority on urogynecology and female pelvic medicine and expert on managing chronic incontinence, Dr Jill Rabin urge incontinence needs to be treated both physically and mentally. 

“Mind over bladder”

In her book Mind over Bladder, Dr Rabin says together with physical treatment train your brain and bladder to recognise the real need to urinate can help you overcome incontinence by changing how you think about bladder control. 

Make a urine schedule

Urinating by schedule instead of when you feel the urge can take a lot of practice. Space your toilet breaks out, increasing the time between bathroom visits gradually. This involves repressing the urge to urinate when you know you have recently been to the bathroom and controlling your bladder to avoid leaks. 

Try to control your anxiety about incontinence

Anxiety over your countenance and possibly having a public leak can actually intensify your urge incontinence and sense of panic when you feel your bladder tingle. 

Wearing a discreet protective undergarment, especially when you are out in public, can offer assurance and comfort while you retrain your brain and bladder. 

Getting a proper diagnosis for your incontinence, and getting appropriate medical help, can also boost your confidence. Understanding why you have this condition and knowing that it is under control can ease some of your anxiety too.


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