Real Housewives of Durban star Nonku Williams took a moment to share a heartbreaking personal story this week.

Nonku WIlliams has gotten people talking in a big way as one of the spiciest members of the Real Housewives of Durban crew but this week it was her life off-screen which made tabloid headlines. At a time when the conversation around gender-based violence and the abuse of women is in greater focus than ever before, Nonku shared her own painful abuse story with the world. 

Nonku Williams on leaving her abusive marriage

Suffering abuse at the hands of a partner is not only physically damaging, but psychologically damaging as well. So when somebody decides to share their story with the public you can be sure that it took a lot of mental effort in order to not only revisit the trauma of their abuse, but to deal with whatever reaction their story might receive. 

There are many reasons why victims don’t speak out, which is why when someone does decide to set the record straight, their courage should be applauded. This week, Nonku WIlliams – who has been one of the most popular stars on the Real Housewives of Durban – opened up about some of the less happy times of her life.

In an emotional video on social media, she opened up about her toxic marriage as she said, 

“I went through a horrible marriage. I was abused mentally, physically and emotionally. I was told I’d never amount to anything, but today you’re looking at a woman who’s found herself, who has found her identity. I know who I am and I know what I stand for. Yes, the battle is hard. Every day I have to remind myself that I’m alive and I have promise. I have three beautiful children. I’m blessed. Every day I look at myself in the mirror and remind myself that.”

Watch the emotional video below, but be warned: some of the contents are triggering. 

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Mzansi supports Nonku Williams 

It’s never easy opening up about an abusive experience, but Nonku Williams will have been relieved to see that her followers rushed to comfort her after learning about her toxic marriage. A number of social media commentators were quick to point out how they also related to her story, having suffered through abusive relationships of their own. 

They also took a moment to comfort the reality star with a number of touching comments. One of her biggest fans on Twitter named Zama Yvonne wrote back, “said: “Oh Nonku, I’m your fan and I truly admire you and your strength. Indeed it can only be God. Just like you said, God loves you so much, sisi. What I like most about you, having watched the RHOD, you are so authentic which is what makes you a true person.”

If you or anybody you know is in an abusive relationship, they can contact the Domestic Violence Helpline on 0800 150 150.

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