Millicent Makhado used her YouTube Channel to spread an important message about gender-based violence.

Gender-based violence has been described by president Cyril Ramaphosa as the “other” pandemic that South Africa is fighting alongside Covid-19. It’s also a societal issue which many of the country’s biggest celebrities have lent their platforms to addressing and the latest to do so last week was former Muvhango star Millicent Makhado. The Thespian shared her own experience of having to walk away from an abusive marriage before sharing some insight into why it isn’t always so easy for others to do the same. 

Millicent Makhado talks GBV on Youtube

Millicent Makhado is renowned across the country for her starring role on SABC 2’s Muvhango where she played the role of Agnes. Although her tenure on the soapie was often dramatic, she took to YouTube to discuss some of the difficulties in her real life instead. Speaking on her channel to her 640+ subscribers, Millicent shared the harrowing experiences of her previous toxic love affair before taking the opportunity to offer advice to her followers. 

She revealed that after finding herself in an abusive marriage, she had to make the difficult decision to walk away. However, she also shaed some insight on why that’s not always so easy. 

The TV star opened up when she said, “This is a very difficult topic, as a young woman who was in an abusive relationship that became marriage. I realised it is not easy to leave an abusive relationship. As much as I was told how stupid I was, that I was a fool or useless, I still didn’t leave.”

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“When I finally left my abusive relationship, I went home back to my mother. Your family is always there for you, I know it might be hard to believe but they will love and take care of you,” 

South Africans touched by Millicent’s story

The topic of domestic abuse is a very triggering one in South Africa, largely because of how many people have experienced abuse or know somebody who has. Although the nature of her video was extremely sensitive, Millicent’s followers thanked her for opening such an important discussion online. 

One commenter wrote, “There are people who have no where  to go to they stay in abusive relationships because they have nowhere to run to. That is why we have to teach women to work hard and acquire skills so that we can be independent.” 

Another commenter shared her own testimony by saying, “11 years ago I walked out with my son and hope in my heart. I celebrate that decision everyday. Ladies, nobody, nothing is worth your life, peace…. Don’t overthink, if you are in this situation, please plug the courage to leave, walk away” 

If you or a loved one find yourself in an abusive relationship then you can call the Gender-Based Violence Command Centre on 0800 428 428 or send a Please Call Me to *120*7867#.

 

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Domestic violence Helpline Stop Women Abuse: 0800 150 150
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People Opposed to Woman Abuse(Powa) http://www.powa.co.za, Tel: 011 642 4345
Child Welfare South Africa http://childwelfaresa.org.za/, Tel: 074 080 8315
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Tears Foundation http://www.tears.co.za/, Free SMS helpline: *134*7355#, Tel: 010 590 5920
The Trauma Centre http://www.trauma.org.za/, Tel: 021 465 7373
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