Your greatest asset at the start of any relationship is the art of discovery, and to help you with that, the art of asking questions.

This weekâ??s letter, Q, stands for questions

What is it about asking questions that scares us so much? Is it the chance that we could look like fools in the eyes of the other person?

Well, it is worth looking like a fool to save yourself from a relationship disaster, besides, how can you serve a relationship if you donâ??t know all you could possible know about your partner?

All too often, people only start getting to know their partners once the ‘I doâ??s’ have been said and all too often they really donâ??t like what they find out.

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Some people donâ??t like it when they’re asked too many questions

I say, â??Tough!â?. The right person wonâ??t mind, and you have to wonder if someone who doesnâ??t like being asked questions is hiding something.

If you are dating for keeps and not just for fun, then you need to put some of the fun on hold and focus on getting to know the other person thoroughly. Put your detective cap on and get to work – know exactly what you are getting into long before you get into it.

Most people are not honest at the start of a relationship: they donâ??t want to reveal their true selves as most people arenâ??t entirely happy with their true selves

Bear in mind that most people are not honest at the start of a relationship: they donâ??t want to reveal their true selves as most people arenâ??t entirely happy with their true selves, but would rather present a version of themselves that they think is more acceptable.

Your task is to get to know the real version, as that is who you will end up living with.