A study published by medical experts from Istanbul in the International Urogynaecology Journal has put a slight damper on the search for the elusive G-spot
According to the researchers, there’s very little evidence that it even exists. While the study was published a few years ago, it has recently gone viral, and has sent South African Twitter users into a tizz. #TheGSpotDOESNOTexist was trending on the social media platform, with men and women keen to weigh in on the debate.
Women around the country disagree with the experts, with many saying that the study must have been “written by a man who wasn’t able to satisfy his woman!”
This hashtag looks it was started by a man who couldn’t please a woman.🤔 pic.twitter.com/PxrxnpWCRo
— Winny Osborne 💙 (@WinnyOsborne) July 1, 2020
— _khomotso (@KhomotjoAlly2) July 1, 2020
While some male Twitter users have expressed a little relief:
Wait, wait, wait! What are you saying bra @tboseZA do you mean the G in G spot stands for Ghost spot. This is such a woman thing do, to make a man search for something she knows very well won’t be find 😂🤣🤣 Good one ladies. Men 0 – ladies 1 trillion #TheGspotDOESNOTexist pic.twitter.com/z27E3KNWLD
— Muntu (@Muntumuyeza) July 1, 2020
Others believe that they know exactly where the G—spot is:
— Bhebhe (@bhebhe__) July 1, 2020
While medical experts mostly agree that there isn’t much biological or physical evidence for the existence of the G-spot, there is quite a lot of anecdotal evidence. We’ve all heard the stories about those “out-of-body” experiences that some women have had during nights of passion. Maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who’ve actually been there!
Did they find the G-spot, or is it really just a question of technique?
Does the G-spot automatically lead to orgasm (is it like an ‘on’ switch), or is there more to the search for satisfaction than some sensitive nerve endings hidden in the vagina?
Clinical sexologist and relationship therapist, Leandie Buys says “If there is a rule about orgasms, it’s this: The harder you try to have one, the further away it seems to get.”
She believes that reaching orgasm is more about technique and being in the right mental and emotional state than a physical “button”.
“Every woman has to experiment to find the right ‘formula’ for herself,” says Leandie. Many women find it easier to climax during clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal penetration. “Relax, take your time, and enjoy the whole experience. Don’t make reaching orgasm your goal, or else it will become all-consuming.”
“As many as 90% of women report having orgasms with clitoral stimulation alone.”
According to his article on Medium.com, Professor of Psychology at Northwest Vista College, Don Lucas, says “Most women find a variety of areas within the vagina to be more sensitive than other areas of the vagina — and not necessarily orgasmic. In fact, less than 33% of women report having orgasms with vaginal stimulation alone. To put this percentage in perspective, as many as 90% of women report having orgasms with clitoral stimulation alone.”
Don’t place too much importance on a “mind-blowing” experience
In her book, “The Elusive Orgasm”, Dr Vivienne Cass notes that women can experience orgasms in very different ways. Some women may never experience a mind-blowing sensation. For some it might just be a light ‘flutter’ in the vagina.
While the media and movies and porn films have hyped up orgasms into something that people ‘expect’ to experience every time they have sex, they are not as common as one might think.
According to the experts, some women believe that there is something wrong with them if they don’t achieve orgasm regularly. This affects their confidence and self-esteem. It may also put a lot of added pressure on their partner who thinks that they aren’t “performing” either.
Experts believe that the focus, instead, should be on enjoying the various erogenous zones, and immersing yourself in the intimacy rather than the orgasm.
Map out your erogenous zones
Dr Beverly Whipple, Professor Emerita at Rutgers University and a professional author and sexologist, co-authored the publication The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality in 1982. The ground-breaking work appeared on The New York Times bestseller list, and was translated into 19 languages.
In an interview with the Independent in 1997, Dr Whipple highlighted the fact that “women can reach orgasms from any erogenous zones,” not just the G-spot. She worked together with sex therapist, Gina Ogden to map out the 15 types of touch across 35 body parts that can lead to orgasm, from the vagina to the nipple.
“The whole point is to help women to realise that what they find pleasurable, sensually and sexually is what they should enjoy and not feel that they have to fit into one model of only one way to respond,” said Dr Whipple.
Whipple’s research into erogenous zones was supported by Canadian scientists who found that:
“For light touch, the neck, forearm, and vaginal margin are the most sensitive areas, and the areola is the least sensitive,” according to this report in TIME.
“When it comes to pressure, the clitoris and nipple are the most sensitive, and the side boob and abdomen are the least. Lastly, when it comes to vibration, the clitoris and nipple are most sensitive. The clitoris was the most sensitive to vibration out of all the body parts.”
There’s a whole industry around the elusive G-spot
Did you know that there’s such a thing as G-spot amplification?!
This cosmetic surgery is meant to “temporarily increase the size and sensitivity of the G-spot area through the injection of a dermal filler or collagen-like material into the bladder–vaginal septum,” according to a study by Puppo, Vincenzo & Gruenwald in the International Urogynecology Journal.
However, the authors of the study believe that “G-spot amplification is not medically indicated and is an unnecessary and inefficacious medical procedure.” It has also not been approved by the US Food and Drug Administration.
In 2010, Burri et al. wrote: “The existence of the G-spot seems to be widely accepted among women, despite the failure of numerous behavioural, anatomical, and biochemical studies to prove its existence.”
While the jury is still out on the medical evidence of the G-spot, the ‘treasure hunt’ is all part of the fun.
Let us know if you figure out the perfect formula!