In love, we fall. We’re struck, we’re crushed, we swoon. We burn with passion. Love makes us crazy and makes us sick. Our hearts ache, and then they break…

In this 15-minute TEDxSFU talk, writer Mandy Len Catron explores the way that we talk about love in the English language, and a better way to think about it to help us find more joy and less suffering in it.

“How have we come to associate love with great pain and suffering? And why do we talk about this ostensibly good experience as if we are victims? These are difficult questions, but I have some theories. And to think this through, I want to focus on one metaphor in particular, which is the idea of love as madness,” says Len Catron.

“Johnson and Lakoff suggest a new metaphor for love: love as a collaborative work of art. I really like this way of thinking about love… Reframing love as something I get to create with someone I admire, rather than something that just happens to me without my control or consent, is empowering…”

Watch the fascinating talk below, it may just help you redefine the meaning of love in your life!

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