Here we are, in Level 3 of lockdown, trying to cope with the rules and regulations and social distancing that goes against the grain, as we are by nature social beings

We feed off interactions with each other, our hearts are filled with the joy of sharing time and experiences. Most of us, in order to cope with the change in our lifestyles, have been remembering the good times we’ve had and sharing over social media, video calling and texting.

Memory: the faculty by which the mind stores & remembers information, something remembered from the past.

Memory takes a lot of poetic license

“It omits some detail, others are exaggerated, according to the emotional value of the articles it touches, for memory is seated predominantly in the heart. The interior is therefore rather dim and poetic” – Tennessee Williams.

The thing about memory that we need to realise, is that it is always and only from our own perceptions, experiences and classic conditioning. The way we recall is always subjective, meaning, how we experienced the particular situation, according to our value systems and the emotions we had at the time.

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You may find that two people who have been exposed to the same experience have differing stories.

I think we are all recalling memories during lockdown

Yearning to be with friends & family, to go to work, to have a special meal or attend concerts. We miss that interaction.

There is a mixed bag of feelings out there. Some are rebelling out of frustration. Some are taking each day as a holiday, feeling exhilarated. Some are working from home and loving it. Some are angry because they’ve had to cancel travel plans.

In essence, we are all moved in one way or another, good, bad or indifferent.

How are you handling the lockdown?

  • Fed up with not being allowed to pop into a restaurant/pub?
  • Feeling frustrated by being without the luxury of having a “braai” with friends?
  • Feeling sad because your elderly friends or family are in a home and you are not allowed to visit?
  • Impatient, at your wits end with children underfoot as schools are not open?
  • Feeling reluctant to do your housework, cooking and cleaning because the reward isn’t apparent?
  • Feeling disheartened at not being able to go to university?
  • Feeling badly done by because you may have been retrenched?
  • Feeling stressed with having to make do with less?

I would like to suggest that you access your memory bank this week

Pick out the good, happy times and rest with them a while. This brings back feelings of joy, happiness, confidence, relaxation and the like.

I know I’ll be met with resistance to this suggestion, but I promise you that being in a state of gratitude, acknowledging the good times you have had, will definitely ease the push pull effect of high and low emotions.

If at all possible, take some time to actively CUT OUT the negative thoughts

Keep busy: Take a walk around your garden, fuss on your pets, feed the birds, and watch the trees move in the breeze. Look out from your balcony and watch the clouds. If you are in hospital, begin a chat with your fellow room mate – find out more about who they are and share who you are with them. It will be hard, but you need to avoid the complainers, the naysayers and the ones who provoke arguments. This would be the ideal time to “socially distance” yourself from them.

After all, you are in control of your life – make sure you fill it with good thoughts and memories. Talk to yourself with kindness and tell yourself that even if life isn’t the way you would like it to be, it truly is wonderful to appreciate the little things however small.

Love and light

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