If you find yourself constantly wondering whether your relationship will last, or worrying about whether or not your partner really wants to be with you, you might be suffering from relationship anxiety…
This is a common issue in relationships, particularly if one of the partners has gone through a traumatic experience in a past relationship. Those who have experienced infidelity, or abuse may be more prone to relationship anxiety.
Signs of relationship anxiety:
- You constantly wonder whether this person is really ‘the one’
- You constantly wonder whether you are good enough for them
- You worry that they might be living a double life
- You worry that they will leave you for ‘someone better’
- You worry that they are just pretending to like you/love you
These are just a few of the thoughts that might go through the mind of someone suffering from relationship anxiety. This is more common at the beginning of a relationship, but can also happen in a more long-term relationship.
In the video above, Astrid Robertson says that “Relationship anxiety is extremely common.” Robertson is a psychotherapist who helps couples with relationship issues. “Most people experience relationship anxiety during the start of a relationship, before they know their partner well enough or whether they have an equal interest in them.”
The individual who suffers from the anxiety may put pressure on their partner for constant reassurance.
The individual who suffers from the anxiety may put pressure on their partner for constant reassurance. They might come across as ‘stifling’ and over-protective of their partner. They may even obsess over reading their partner’s WhatsApp conversations, or emails. The anxiety can cause physical issues like exhaustion, an upset stomach, and even an emotional breakdown.
How to deal with relationship anxiety:
This can be addressed on an individual level as well as together as a couple. The individual suffering from anxiety should seek help from a professional counsellor in order to process the issue. Where does it come from? Why is it presenting in this situation, and is there anything that the person is doing to make it worse. A counsellor can also offer good coping techniques, and behavioural therapy that will help ease the anxiety. Sometimes medication can be prescribed.
Together they can build a new foundation of trust.
As a couple, open and honest communication is vital. The individual suffering from anxiety needs to ensure that they acknowledge the anxiety, and ask their partner to be supportive in dealing with it. Together they can build a new foundation of trust. Seeing a relationship therapist together can help them lay the foundations.
If you suffer from relationship anxiety, it’s important to seek help before it becomes a negative cycle in your life. You may be sabotaging your relationships due to your anxiety. This is something that CAN be addressed through counselling, building your self-esteem, and new behaviours.
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