No matter how distant he seems, you still have the power to shift your relationship to a more positive, loving place
You know that ugly feeling when you come to the realisation that your husband seems to have stopped trying in your relationship…
You might even be asking yourself, “does he still love me?” Can you learn how to fix a broken marriage when it seems like your husband no longer cares?
Your thoughts lately have included things like, “I’m alone in this marriage. I’m doing all the work!” Or, “I think he’s given up… on us!”
And, sadly, even, “Is my marriage over?”
It hurts. It’s unbelievable. You feel terrified! And then… you’re angry.
It feels like at every turn, your conversations with him just spiral into negativity. As hard as you try, it seems like this cycle of marriage problems and conflicts never ends. You move from stuck to even more stuck.
It’s been this way for weeks, months, years, possibly even decades. From the moment you first married and every day since then, your interactions with him ooze with animosity, resentment, and anger.
So, what can you do about it?
Well, since you’re reading this article, you’ve already taken the first step! It clear you haven’t given up on the relationship.
So, what’s the next thing you can do? Well, I can tell you not to wait for him to make the first move! You’ll find yourself waiting a while.
No matter how distant he seems, you still have the power to shift your relationship to a more positive, loving place. By fighting for your marriage and changing how you act (and react), there is a solid chance that you’ll create a different outcome.
Is there a guarantee? If you follow these tips on how to save your marriage, you will shift yourself out of feeling stuck because you’re actively doing something different about the situation.
Is there a risk? Of course, you can’t control his actions or reactions. But, doing nothing – or doing the same old thing – is a much bigger risk to the success or failure of relationships.
So, if you’re wondering if your husband still loves you or has checked out and no longer cares, here are nine ways to fix your broken marriage:
1. Start saying “I love you” again
Tell him you love him every single day!
2. Give him sincere compliments
Notice what he does right and compliment him for it.
3. Bring hugging back into your life
Bridge the physical divide and give your man a hug.
Tomorrow, give him another.
4. Romance him a bit
Sprinkle his day with a few sweet, thoughtful gestures that show you’re paying attention to what makes him feel happy and loved!
Don’t make a big show of these gestures. Just subtly add them to his day.
5. Try being positive
Stop complaining about every small annoyance in your married life and in general. Looking on the bright side is contagious.
He’ll fall in love with you all over again!
6. Smile more
It’s hard to resist a woman with a sincere grin on her face.
If you care about him, say it with a smile and watch how fast he starts smiling back at you.
7. Take an interest in him
Be his best friend and listen to him with interest and enthusiasm.
8. Make nurturing yourself a priority
It’s great to appreciate how hard he works but learn how to appreciate your own effort, as well.
The more you take care of yourself, the more energy you’ll have for your relationship to grow and heal.
9. Show a little respect
When you treat him like a man, you’ll feel more like a woman.
Respect him as your man and watch the magic happen!
Now that you know how to save your marriage, know that any relationship is not devoid of relationship problems. What matters is that you do everything you can to fix it while it’s still salvageable.
Margot Brown is a straightforward couple’s therapist that wrote a self-help book for you! Her latest book, Kickstart Your Relationship Now! Move On or Move Out is waiting for you. This article was first featured on YourTango.