Last updated on Jun 10th, 2021 at 04:36 pm
No relationship is perfect
Whether you bicker over the ‘little’ things or have full-blown fights about the ‘big’ things, conflict is an inevitable part of a relationship…
… it means that you each have your own opinion and that you ultimately care enough to be honest with one another.
What matters, though, is how you fight.
Here are three things to remember when fighting with your partner:
1. Words can make or break a relationship
Relationships are fragile – and all it takes is one ‘low blow’, accusatory comment or snarky remark to tear down all the ‘good’.
While it’s impossible to police every word that comes out of your mouth (especially when you’re angry or hurt), it is probably a good idea to practise a little mindfulness when it comes to choosing what you say, and of course, how you say it!
Relationships are fragile – and all it takes is one ‘low blow’, accusatory comment or snarky remark to tear down all the ‘good’
If you need to step away for a minute or two in the heat of the moment, then do so. Go for a walk, count to 10, take a breath…
… you will probably find that, once your anger settles, whatever you were fighting about is really not worth the fuss.
3. Pick your battles
Not everything needs to be nit-picked. So, he slipped up or didn’t follow through with something he said he’d do.
In the greater scheme of things, is that enough to warrant a fight?
Remind yourself what really counts, and focus on the things you both do right, instead of the things you do wrong.
2. Never go to sleep angry
No matter how angry you may be, try to resolve things with your partner before you turn the lights off at night.
The last thing you want is to wake up with a lingering problem or atmosphere hanging over your heads, that could potentially sour another day.
Plus, going to bed angry only sets you up for hours of tossing and turning – when you could be snuggling and catching up on some much-needed shut-eye!