When we are confident, we achieve more and feel more successful says human behaviourist Dr John Demartini. He offers 10 tips on how to build confidence:

1. Make a plan

Clearly define what you truly would love to be, do and have in your life. Your energy soars and your confidence increases when you are clear on your aim and direction.

2. Mix with inspiring people

People who think big encourage you to expand. Interact with inspired people and it will rub off on you.

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3. Decide who you want to be

Rather than thinking about and dwelling on the past, start affirming who you intend to be in the future. Give yourself permission to dream big!

4. Read

Reading opens your mind, expands your vocabulary, empowers your actions, and results in you building your confidence.

The difference between who you are today and who you will be tomorrow is directly proportional to what you learn

I recommend reading biographies of people that you admire so that you can see that they also had to deal with challenges to become who they are today. When you realise that they started where you are or that they have experienced similar challenges, you realise that you can do it too and your confidence will increase.

5. Be grateful

Keep a gratitude diary and write down what you are grateful for each day. This will shift your perspective and actions. When you are grateful for your life you attract more opportunities and events to be grateful for which builds your confidence.

6. Eat healthily

Eating too much slows you down and makes you sluggish. Eating moderately and regularly assists digestion and optimises your health. When you feel healthy, vital and enthused, you feel confident.

7. Smile

Smiling is contagious; it creates the impression of vibrancy and youthfulness. When you open up to the world, the world opens up to you. Inspired interactions with people will help you to feel more confident.

8. Save

Saving, investing and managing money wisely are vital to self-empowerment and confidence. Save at least 10% of your earnings every month. Saving means that you are valuing you and when you value you, the world values you too.

When you open up to the world, the world opens up to you.

9. Don’t look back

We often drag emotional baggage around instead of looking at the loving balance and surrounding opportunities. When you see every event, whether challenging or supporting, on the way to your dreams and goals, and you’ll feel more inspired and confident.

10. Finish it

Do what you say you will do and your confidence levels and achievement will increase.

About the author

Dr. John Demartini is a human behaviour specialist, educator, international best-selling author and the founder of the Demartini Institute.

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