The rules are simple, and the heartbreak is worth it
Imagine a life where you started dating a man, and at the same time he started dating 27 other women.
Imagine you actually agree to this, and then after several months you may or may not be engaged to him. No way this could actually happen, unless you are cool with having sister wives.
Except, laugh-out-loud, it does…
… it’s called The Bachelor: Where all normal dating rules and social codes are considered taboo.
Let’s imagine for a second that the dating that occurs on The Bachelor was the reality for all of us looking for love.
Here are 10 ‘logical’ reasons dating should be exactly like The Bachelor
1. When you first meet your boyfriend you are immediately obsessed
From the first moment your eyes meet, you decide you want to spend the rest of your life with him and that he is your ‘soulmate’. You often use the line, “I want to marry this man”.
You also know a ton of facts about him even though he doesn’t even know your name. You start putting your name in front of his surname and can’t wait for him to meet your family.
2. You don’t care that your boyfriend is dating 27 other women
When referring to him you say, “our boyfriend”, because he is dating 27 other women. You are also okay with the fact because, well, you don’t really have a choice. Besides, he is perfect.
Not only is he dating 27 other women, but some of them even end up being your close friends. You talk about your dates with him and claim that you are falling in love.
You even cheer your friends on when he chooses them for a one-on-one date and not you.
3. Every week there is a set day when he may, or may not, break up with you
Each week you know that there’s a possibility that your dream man could break up with you!
As the day gets looms, you try to solidify your relationship with him.
Love is on a timeline, and if you two haven’t grown in your love within a week, then it’s time for you to go.
4. When he chooses NOT to break up with you, you thank him
You thank him because he chose not to break up with you. That’s right. He is the definition of a perfect man, so you couldn’t be more grateful that he has chosen to continue kissing you and your best friends for another rocky week.
Also, in choosing you he presents a rose. He doesn’t just say, “hey, we should keep dating”, but also asks you to accept a single, prickly rose because that somehow symbolises his love.
5. You have to tell him a heart-wrenching story on your first one-on-one
If you don’t have some sad story that made you into the wonderful person you are today, then you probably shouldn’t date him. He expects that on your first date, you will tell him something about yourself, and even if it isn’t sad, it must be delivered in a way where he thinks, “wow, that’s so sad she must be a great woman”.
Your ‘story’ is your key to success and without it, you are nothing. He will see you as someone without depth, without enough layers, and who can’t open up fast enough.
6. He makes a lot of speeches
The benefit of dating someone alongside 27 other women is he has a beautiful speech prepared in his back pocket that he is able to slightly alter to match your heart-wrenching story.
Each date, he will deliver different versions of this prepared speech , after which he will present a rose, until you no longer make the cut.
7. You have to narrate your relationship like a romance novel
Phrases like, “This has been an incredible journey”, “I’m on cloud-nine”, “I’m excited to take the next step in our relationship”, and “I am falling in love with this man”, frequently roll from your tongue.
The other women are saying similar things, so you may want to take a step back and wonder how you all can be soulmates with the same person. They are probably the ones confused though, right? Besides, exactly eight days ago he gave you the validation you needed when he subtly touched your right hipbone whilst giving another woman a rose.
Oh, and three days ago he looked at you from across the room. No woman gets validation like you do.
8. There is an assigned day when you can sleep with him
He presents you with a letter asking if you want to sleep with him. Most likely, unless you have a child, you will say yes. You say this knowing very well that he will sleep with at least two other women as well, and then after sleeping with him you may be sent packing.
If sent home you might question whether it was based on who performed best in bed, but you can’t ask him because you aren’t allowed to contact him. He continues on his “journey to find love”, while you go home to cry alone.
9. You also know the exact day he may or may not propose
If you aren’t sent home after sleeping with him, then you might actually get to marry him. This isn’t necessarily a question of whether you want to marry him, but whether he will choose you. If you have made it this far, there really is no turning back. The supposed love of your life will be torn between you and the other women he has slept with, in order to decide your fate.
You will wait, praying he will choose you. You have been on a few dates with him, and you know other women are attracted to him, so you have decided he is the one. You don’t really have a choice in the matter because it’s all or nothing; and you choose all.
10. You are happy with any result (eventually)
If he doesn’t choose you, you cry, move on, are best friends with the other un-chosen woman, and end up dating 27 men the next year anyways. You might even spend time with him and the winner because you two are BFFs. If he does choose you then you get to watch him on TV making out with 27 other women and telling them they could be the one. It doesn’t really matter though because you are the winner, and in the end that’s what is most important.
These guidelines make perfect sense and I’m sure you are now wondering why we don’t all resort to dating in this fashion.
The rules are simple, and the heartbreak is worth it. Just put yourself out there for all the world to see, and expose your entire soul and story. Doesn’t get much more sensible than that.
In reality, you know how insane this all sounds, yet somehow ABC and other TV networkds are able to convince the world that “it works”. and is a logical path to “finding love”.
But hey, who’s to judge?