For your reference, here are 10 signs that you’re over your ex and are on your way to a healthy, happy life

While we sympathise with those of you who are still pining over an ex (we cyberstalk our exes sometimes, too), we’re hoping that this article will help you learn how to get over a breakup. It might just be the catalyst you need to move past that toxic purgatory.

And since one week is totally long enough to get over someone once and for all, it’s important to check yourself. For your reference, here are 10 signs that you’re over your ex and are on your way to a healthy, happy life.

1. You don’t feel homicidal when he starts dating someone else

In fact, you’re thrilled for both of them. Especially since you’re the one who set them up in the first place. After all, just because the two of you didn’t work out doesn’t mean that he shouldn’t find happiness with someone else.

On the flip side, if he happened to know someone who might just be your soulmate, you’re sure he’d do the same for you.

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2. You feel no urgent need to return his phone calls, texts and emails

Because he no longer holds the number one spot in your heart. And it’s not as if he’s going to see the error of his ways simply because you’re prompt.

3. You are interested in other men

When you and your ex first broke up, you hit the bar scene in earnest with your best gal pals, but your heart just wasn’t into it, no matter how many jolly rancher shots they plied you with. But just the other day, that sexy bartender smiled at you, and you experienced a moment of zing!

And yesterday evening, you brushed shoulders with Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome as you were picking up your kids from school, and your stomach did flip-flops. It looks like you’re ready to date again!

If you’re excited to be single, you’ve put Mr. Past where he belongs

4. You now realise that a lot of his personality “quirks” were annoying or lame

Like the fact that he was a compulsive liar. Or the fact that he constantly preened in front of the full-length mirror, making it really difficult for you to get dressed in the morning. If you’re done seeing him through rose-coloured glasses, you’re over him.

5. You consider your relationship a learning experience

When you think back on the happy memories the two of you created together, you can’t help but smile. Yes, there were serious problems, but now, thank your lucky stars that you know what to look out for in the future.

And that awful angst you experienced during your breakup and subsequent mourning period? It only made you stronger.

6. You no longer blame him for everything

In the past, the bitterness you experienced due to your breakup caused you to inject spiteful comments about him into every conversation. Thank god that’s over and done with.

7. When you meet a new guy, you don’t automatically compare him to your ex

Not only that, but you’re not even tempted to bring him up on your first date. Instead, you’re truly interested in learning more about this new guy’s life and, when asked about your own, are able to present yourself as a woman with hobbies and interests separate from those you shared with your old partner.

8. You think of yourself as single, not as someone who’s just left a relationship

You’ve wallowed in self-pity for long enough, and are again ready to embrace the fun, adventure and boundless possibilities inherent in singledom. If you’re excited to be single, you’ve put Mr. Past where he belongs.

9. You truly feel that the relationship wasn’t meant to be

And that you’re that much closer to finding the one with whom you are supposed to be.

10. You try to think of his middle name or phone number and can’t recall it

Congratulations! The unnecessary detritus from your time together has been officially flushed from your system. Now go out and find someone who doesn’t give you chronic migraines. Or just take it easy and spend some quality time with someone super-important: You.

This article was first published on YourTango.