You’ve been dating this really nice guy, for a few weeks, months, even years maybe. At first, he seemed like the perfect guy: kind, considerate, generous, and willing to do just about anything for you. In fact, you may still feel that he hasnâ??t changed and heâ??s still the same really nice guy.

However, for whatever reason, youâ??ve decided to move on. So how do you end the relationship without hurting this really nice guy?  It wonâ??t be pleasant, but here are a few guidelines that might make it a little bit easier â?? both for you and for him.

Make a list of pros and cons

Write everything down first. List the pros and cons of the relationship. There’s no need to memorize your lines, but at least have an outline of what you are going to say and when. Try to anticipate his responses and/or questions and work out how you are going to explain why you want to dump him.

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Don’t forget you have probably been with a really nice guy this time around because you are sick of the mean ones, so if this guy is treating you well, consider carefully what you are doing. Perhaps you’ll decide to reconsider.

Dump your really nice guy face-to-face

Once you’ve decided that you really want to dump your really nice guy, itâ??s important to break up with him face-to-face. This is not the easiest way, but itâ??s certainly better for both of you. Don’t just avoid him instead. Avoidance is cowardly and shows a lack of respect both for him and for the relationship you had.

Be considerate of his feelings

Chances are that this really nice guy isn’t even aware of the problem, so this may come as a complete shock to him. He may well be very upset, so take as long as you need, within reason. Try to keep the interaction amicable.

Don’t feel you have to give a detailed explanation as to why you want to break up

You want to make it clear to him that you have considered all the pros and cons of your decision. Be firm however â?? you do not have to give a detailed explanation as to why you want to dump your really nice guy.
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