“Remember that 10 years from now, all the glitz and glam of your big day will look like your mom’s old-school wedding pictures”…
Taking your relationship to the next level and tying the knot can be both exciting and stressful.
So, we asked BONA readers to share their best wedding planning and marriage advice…
Delegation is important
“Delegation is important; your family will always support you. It is also important to do your own follow-ups. Know what you want or at least have an idea, otherwise people will sell you their own, especially the décor companies because it is in their best interest for you to choose what is already available.” – Dorothea Sekotho
Pre-marital counselling is a must!
“Go for pre-marital counselling six to12 months before the wedding to make sure that you are both on the same page, and set the correct foundation. Also, save money for as long as possible before your big day so that you can have the wedding of your dreams.” – Tia Williams
“I suggest pre-marriage counselling. It helps you understand things you will go through during your marriage. This also helps you start dealing with them beforehand. It helps you to improve your ability to communicate, set realistic expectations for marriage and develop conflict-resolution skills. I also had advice from my mom; who said that communication should be a priority. Keep the lines of communication open on a daily basis – send pictures and text messages. I live with my husband but when I’m at work, we communicate at least two to three times a day. It is vital that you are both committed to each other and believe in your marriage. Your long-distance marriage will fail if there is a lack of trust between you. With regard to the wedding day, deciding on the venue should be one of the first things on your to-do list. Once you’ve booked it, start looking for other essential vendors such as your caterer. Make sure that your venue suits the kind of dream wedding you want.” – Zinhle Mbatha
“It is vital that you are both committed to each other and believe in your marriage”
Tell your partner when it hurts
“We have experienced a lot of challenges. These include my husband losing his job, being involved in a car accident and losing our son in 2015; it was not easy. But, with the support of our family, holding on to God and believing that everything was going to pass, we overcame it all. And, none of these incidents made us drift apart. Instead, we became closer because nothing beats communication. Tell your partner when it hurts, and be vulnerable with each other.” – Vuyokazi Gqunta
Enjoy your special day for what it is
“Remember that 10 years from now, all the glitz and glam of your big day will look like your mom’s old school wedding pictures. So, make sure that you enjoy the special day for what it is, and not how it looks.” – Zodwa Ntshongwana
Communication is key!
“When you’re in love, things such as religion or finances do not seem like important topics. But, this can result in divorce when the honeymoon phase is over. Discuss these subjects beforehand. Additionally, communicate, communicate, communicate! Resolve conflict before going to bed and forgive easily. Forget about the expectations of the toilet seat up and toothpaste tube being closed. Also, be honest about your whereabouts – no matter how crazy your day gets, always make time for a message or phone/video call. Trust goes a long way. I’ve been married for eight awesome years.” – Richie Plaatjies
“One of the challenges we faced was from our family members wanting us to put them first. We overcame this challenge by forming a strong communication bond, and it works well for us. We are close, and have been happily together for five years.” – Mpho Motitsoe
It all comes down to energy
“The energy that brought you together is the same energy that makes the stars shine or birds fly. So, use it as a blessing for the good of your amazing bond.” – Mmabo Mmaboleng Theku