Everyone goes through these stages after finding out their ex has moved on

Going through a break-up can go one of two ways: either really great… or a slow nose dive into every emotion possible. If it’s a more recent parting of ways, then it’s quite understandable to have these feelings amplified.

Regardless, everyone goes through these stages after finding out their ex has moved on:

1. Shock

“How the heck could they have they moved on so quickly!?” We all say it, whether it has been three years or two months. Either way it always hits you a bit – you didn’t think they’d find someone else, and even though it’s acceptable for you to, it is definitely not okay for them!

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2. Psycho stalker

Once you have a name or a social media handle to work with, buckle up, because it’s go time! You creep her Instagram, Facebook, Twitter (we really got to keep tags), photos she’s tagged in, pictures your ex is tagged in, and everything else you can find, hoping to see her with him. It’s not that you want to know if she’s the right fit for him, it’s that you’re better than she is, so why not creep?

3. Let the ladies know

Screenshots are immediately sent to your supporters and the discussion/ pig roast will begin. You might feel that you’re better looking or a better person than she is, but that brings me to the next point.


4. You’ve moved on

It’s been a while. Maybe you’ve seen other people since, maybe you’ve been painfully single. Either way, you have done your best to move on and you feel like you have zero feelings for him… after all he’s your ex for a reason. But then you get a plot twist.

5. You are still angry/sad but deny it to people

You are not fine. You can’t hide it any more…and now you are coming to realise it.


6. You feel betrayed

Maybe you made a promise to always love each other regardless of new relationships or maybe you’re still experiencing the initial shock of discovering he’s moved on. You still feel betrayed and can’t understand why.

7. You feel like crap about yourself

Whether you thought you moved on and realised you haven’t, or just wish you were the one to be developing a new relationship, you just feel bad about yourself. You can’t help feeling jealous and upset, and that’s normal. We all go through it, so don’t worry, you are not alone!


There are many emotions and stages we experience, and while we’re still getting over the initial shock of what’s happening it’s important to remember that your ex is out of your life for a reason, so there’s no reason to be upset about it.

Article by Brittany Christopoulos first published on Unwritten.