South African radio presenter and national counsellor, Criselda Dudumashe will no longer be pressing charges against her husband. She had accused him of physically assaulting her at the end of January

The outspoken presenter has never shied away from the topic of abuse. In fact, she has used her platforms to offer advice to many survivors around the country but nobody expected to learn that she was on the receiving end of the same abuse for which she offers counselling.

Criselda took to social media to reveal that her husband of five years had struck her violently after a disagreement and she proceeded to press charges against him. A month and a half later, Criselda has updated her fans on the latest proceedings and revealed that she is no longer pressing charges.

Speaking to Daily Sun, Criselda explained why she had changed her mind: “I have had time to think about the case I opened against my husband for assaulting me and I decided to withdraw the case if he agreed to conditions”.

And those conditions? He needs to attend anger management training and make an active effort to rehabilitate through counselling

While Mr Dudumashe has earned himself a second chance, all abusers are not off the hook in Criselda’s book. The Positive GP has taken to Instagram to share the warning signs of abuse with her followers. She said:

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“Prevention is the best medicine. To avoid getting involved with an abuser when you’re dating, beware of someone who: • Insists on having his or her way and won’t compromise. • Has outbursts of anger. • Is rude to others. • Criticises you or your family. • Is jealous or possessive. • Is paranoid. • Threatens you. Pay attention to these signs despite the fact that the person is pursuing you and expressing love and affection.”

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Prevention is the best medicine. To avoid getting involved with an abuser when you’re dating, beware of someone who: • Insists on having his or her way and won’t compromise. • Has outbursts of anger. • Is rude to others. • Criticizes you or your family. • Is jealous or possessive. • Is paranoid. • Threatens you. Pay attention to these signs despite the fact that the person is pursuing you and expressing love and affection. An abuser won’t risk becoming abusive until he or she is confident that you won’t leave. First, he or she will try to win you over and isolate you from friends and family. See if he or she respects your boundaries. Often, violence doesn’t start until after marriage or the birth of a child, when you’re less likely to leave. But it also can escalates when you try to leave. This is why it’s imperative to have a plan and support. Don’t wait for the next attack. He is not your responsibility Leave. The End….#stopabuse #youareneveralone❤️ #saveyourself #savebabeswodumo

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Did Criselda Dudumashe do the right thing by giving her hubby a second chance?