This year, we’re encouraging you to make gentler, more mindful resolutions that will help you to become a better and happier mom!

‘New year, new you!’ – right?

Except if you’re a mom…

Then it’s more like, ‘new year, same me’ – and not because you lack the motivation, because we’re pretty sure you have plenty of that!

You want to whip up something from a cookbook at least once a week, hit the gym every second day and keep every cupboard in the house as neat as a pin!

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It’s just, that you’re busy and when you’re not busy, you’re tired.

It’s hard to change habits and add new ones when you’re knee-deep in nappies, toddler tantrums and teenage struggles.

We get it.

Which is why, this year, we’re encouraging you to make gentler, more mindful resolutions that will help you become a better and happier mom!

Here are five easy resolutions we can all commit to making:

1. Ditch the mom guilt

When you’re a mom, anything (and I mean anything) can turn into a reason to feel guilty and like you’re ‘not good enough’. Which is not a bad thing, because it’s our job to take care of, to nurture, to worry – and worrying about being ‘good enough’ is just part and parcel of being a mom.

In fact, the mom-guilt (and feeling of ‘not good enough’) that we are so often hit by, can actually serve as a helpful tool – as it can provide checks and balances.

Are you overloading your plate? Or spending too much time on meaningless media? ‘Little’ things like over-committing to extra-mural activities or scrolling through your Facebook or Instagram feed each time you have a spare moment can actually wear you out and contribute to you feeling unaccomplished, frazzled and ultimately, ‘not good enough’.

In order to take care of your family, you need to take care of yourself. So, slow down and relax, even if it’s just for 10 minutes each day

2. Set aside some time for yourself

It’s easy to lose track of YOU in the madness that is motherhood. But, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Which is why it’s so important to carve out even just 10 minutes for yourself.

In order to take care of your family, you need to take care of yourself. So, slow down and relax, even if it’s just for 10 minutes each day. Go for a walk, do your hair, video call your mom, or read a few pages from your book!

3. Stop comparing and mom-shaming

Breastfeeding! Sleep training! Discipline! – there are countless ways in which we differ. But, just because we differ, doesn’t mean that any of us are wrong – or better.

In fact, at the heart of it, all moms have one thing in common; and that’s just how much we love our children.

So, let’s quit comparing, passing judgement, turning up our noses and dropping snarky remarks on social media or in school parking lots – and show each other (and ourselves!) some love, kindness and understanding.

4. De-stress your morning routine

In most households (with school-aged children), weekday mornings are stressful, to say the least…

Teens need to be bribed out of bed, fussy eaters need to be cajoled to eat, un-cooperative kids need to be dressed – all while trying to keep your sanity in check. By the time your child shoves a reply slip under your nose on the way out the front door, you’re ready to blow a gasket!

By then, a negative tone has been set for the day: you’re agitated because there are just too many ‘to-dos’ and too little time, and weary from nagging your way through the morning routine and your kids – well, they’re rolling their eyes in the back seat because mom is in a bad mood. Again.

Now there is no ‘quick fix’ or magic formula when it comes to avoiding the morning madness. In fact, like anything that has to do with kids, a ‘perfect’ morning routine just. doesn’t. exist.

Having said that, there are things that you can commit to doing, to help turn things around and get your mornings off to a better, less stressful start, like:

  • Prepping what you can the night before
  • Unplugging at the breakfast table
  • Saying yes instead of no (and avoiding an unnecessary argument)

As moms, we get so caught up in raising a family and running a household that we forget that our marriage is just as important as the day we said ‘I do’ – if not, more so!

5. Focus on your marriage

As moms, we get so caught up in raising a family and running a household that we forget that our marriage is just as important as the day we said ‘I do’ – if not, more so!

In fact, being a ‘Pinterest-perfect’ mom means nothing if the core foundation (and by foundation, we mean marriage) that we’ve laid for our kids is not rock solid.

A happy (and healthy) marriage takes work, and, while you may feel like you’re being pulled in 50 different directions, with nothing left to give to your partner at the end of the day, it’s not as hard as you think; agree to disagree, give each other grace, set aside quality time and don’t be shy to pack on the PDA!