You’re the owner of your relationship, and you can mould your marriage into what you want it to become

Creating a lasting, stable marriage is just that: A creation. So what’s the secret to making sure that what you’ve created stands the test of time?

The secret is that there is no secret.

Every couple’s situation is unique, but you can choose to adopt the right mentality to ensure you’re doing your part to make it work.

1. Value your marriage

Think of your marriage – not your car or house – as your most important asset. You’re the owner of your relationship, and you can mould your marriage into what you want it to become.

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Always prioritise family life before your professional life! Today, many women have become career women, which is amazing! But the problem begins when their career overlaps onto their home life. Keep your marriage and your work separate, but always choose your marriage over your work.

2. Don’t take everything so seriously

So what if your husband snores louder than fireworks going off, or if your wife has a problem with being way too tidy? These are traits which make them unique. Don’t create reasons for arguments which aren’t valid.

You won’t always get your way, and understanding this is one of the first steps towards a beautiful marriage

Let your partner be who they are and admire them for both their strengths and weaknesses.

3. Compromise, compromise, compromise

If your partner won your last disagreement, allow them to win this one too. You won’t always get your way, and understanding this is one of the first steps towards a beautiful marriage.

4. Simplicity is key

We, as humans, over-complicate absolutely every facet of life. As a rule of thumb, the simpler your marriage, the more pure, genuine, and solid it will be. Don’t seek to make your relationship too complex with false promises, negative emotions, or pretentious demands.

5. Form habits together

Here’s a thought for change – do things together! Take up a new habit with your spouse, such as a new exercise routine you can both enjoy or a new craft you know they’ll be interested in. This will lead to new conversation, more mutual interests, and those tender moments which later become cherished memories.