Last updated on Jul 7th, 2020 at 03:37 pm

Self-love is mostly related to not overworking yourself and accepting you can’t be perfect, but there isn’t enough focus on the physical aspect of it

As well as loving yourself for who you are, you should also love your body

This is easier said than done, but there are some sure-fire ways to embrace it as it is. By doing so, you’re also taking care of your mental well-being and working on becoming a healthier and more confident individual.

1. Don’t pay attention to criticism

See yourself for who you are, and don’t pay attention to what other people say. Taking criticism to heart will lead to not liking yourself and seeing only flaws in the mirror.

Everybody is different, so your ideal weight and body will probably differ from somebody else’s. It in no way means that either of you is wrong. The other person doesn’t need to understand that, but you do.

That’s why it’s a good idea to set a standard for yourself and stick to it. This way, when someone starts criticising you, you’ll have a response prepared. You don’t even need to use it against the other person, it’s enough to keep repeating it in your head. After all, it’s you who needs to realise your worth. Others will in time.

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2. Appreciate yourself

It’s easy to see flaws in yourself, so you have to make an effort to change that. Stand in front of the mirror and find things you like, and tell yourself.

Tell yourself how beautiful and amazing you are, and how much more space there is for growth. This is a very useful exercise that can take up to four minutes during the day, but influences the way you think about yourself greatly.

In the beginning, it can be hard, but soon you’ll be able to see all the good things, and being kind to yourself will become second nature.

You can even start with general things you like about yourself and build up to the physical aspect if you’re having too much trouble.

3. Reinvent your closet

Nothing spells a fresh start like a makeover! Sometimes you need to see yourself in an entirely new light to be able to appreciate all that you are. There are also tricks on how to find clothing suitable for you and your body type, which flatter you far more than the clothing you have. What’s more, buying new clothes is the perfect way to get out of your comfort zone.

No one says you need to stick to the same old style you’ve been wearing for ages. Start completely fresh. With this technique, it’ll be easier to gain confidence and love your body, as you’ll practically be a whole new person. With that, you can let your old habits of self-loathing die more easily.

4. Focus on health and feeling well

The main thing you need to realise is that your weight is just a number on the scales. How you feel is what really matters. Instead of starving yourself and your body to reduce that weight, focus on your health.

The first thing you should do is take care of your diet

Make sure to: cut out sugar and sugary foods and drinks, fatty salty snacks and fast foods, refined carbs and chemicals; reduce the animal products and alcohol; add more fresh fruit and vegetables, whole grains and legumes, and vitamins. To help with protein intake, you could add a healthy dose of pea (or whey) protein powder to your meals. This new diet will help your body stay well-nourished, maintain your immune system, and make you more energetic and happier.

5. Do all the things you fantasize about

Don’t tie your goals to your weight. It’s not the one stopping you from living your best life – you are. All of the things you’ve imagined you’d do once you lost weight should be done at the earliest given opportunity, regardless if you’ve lost weight or not.

You have other values aside from that number on the scale and are perfectly capable of doing anything you set out to do. This’ll also make you realise that it was all in your head and that there’s no reason not to love your body as it is.


As you can see, there’s no room for self-loathing in your life. Your body is the only one you’ll get so you should treat it with respect.

Embrace it, love it, and watch it mould into something more beautiful than you could have imagined.

Negative thoughts benefit no one, and you should completely erase them out of your life. You’ll only be the best version of yourself with constant support and uplifting thoughts you nurture towards your body.


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