Though our moods fluctuate naturally, they should never flare up or plummet due to the negative influences of others

Nature designed us as social creatures – we were meant to mingle, communicate constantly, and connect with each other on so many levels. It should come as no surprise, then, that in going about our everyday routine, we come into contact with hundreds of different energies: speaking with friends and family, listening to the many voices on TV and social media, picking up titbits of conversation from co-workers.

Even asking the barista for your morning brew means you’re connecting!

Every energetic encounters, no matter how slight or fleeting, leave an impression on our own field of energy. But what happens when we meet less-than-positive people and might merge with their dark disposition? This too comes with our daily dose of interaction, and since we can’t always help who’s around us, we must learn to block out energies that are detrimental to our morale.

Follow these seven simple steps to banish bad energy from others and uplift your own energetic essence:

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1. Identify who’s prone to a bad mood

Identify the people around you who are most likely to express negative energy. They might be under a lot of pressure, going through a difficult time, or just have a personality that lends a bad attitude. Some people simply see the glass as half empty rather than half full. And that’s fine for them, but their unstable temperament should not spill onto you.

2. Understand how their moods affect you

Analyse how their negative energy is depriving your own state of being, your emotions, and your ability to function. Once you acknowledge the impact, you’ll understand that their moods might be affecting you more than you think, leaving you physically and mentally drained. You may not realise it, but you absorb energies around you just as much as you absorb oxygen from the air.

3. Avoid those who give off bad energy

You should not have to ‘put up with’ anyone’s bad mood on a daily basis, whether the person is your boss, family member, or spouse. If you know someone who is constantly low-spirited due to life circumstances or otherwise, it might be time for you to politely create a bit of space between you. You can’t run the other way whenever you see someone scowl, but you should shy away from people who emit chronic negativity and gravitate closer to those who praise a positive mind-set.

You should not have to ‘put up with’ anyone’s bad mood on a daily basis, whether the person is your boss, family member, or spouse

4. Find a peaceful place

When you sense someone’s energy becoming toxic, try to retreat to a place of solitude. This might be your private office, your bedroom, or even your car if you have nowhere else to go. The important thing is that you withdraw yourself from the unhealthy atmosphere and take a minute to recharge your own energy.

When someone else’s energy is making you feel uncomfortable, try affirmations. You can say things like, “I love myself therefore I protect my energy from the harmful vibes of others.”

5. Create a shield of protection

Don’t allow others to tap into your field of energy; your energetic territory is your very own personal space of being, and very few people should have access to this private part of yourself. If you’re an open person who invites others into your ‘energy bubble’, you grant them the opportunity to modify your mood and mould your well-being to their liking.

Remember that when someone enters your energy field, their own state of being doesn’t trail far behind. If you feel this happens to you often, keep your energetic doors closed to invaders.

6. Practice pure energy

Your energetic levels determine the precious, sometimes irreversible decisions you make. And if your energy is foggy from the emotional fumes of others, you may not always make the best decisions. In unpleasant situations, seek solutions through healing, high-spirited methods rather than through destructive, unruly emotions. Your problems may reach the same resolutions whether you utilise logic or desperation, but you will waste much more energy employing the latter.

7. Keep your own emotions in check

Just as we exercise our bodies, we must also exercise our emotions. We often believe we don’t have the power to control our emotions, but we do! We tend to enable our emotions by feeding into the negative ones like anger, jealousy, and sadness. Instead, we need to control our negative emotions before they take control of us. Practice keeping your emotions within a normal range in order to keep them healthy and stable. Our greatest mistakes are made in moments of anger, which raises adrenaline levels and takes hold of our actions.

Remember that the more you enable anger, the more the nerve cells of your brain evoke this emotion. Similarly, the more you practice feelings of tranquillity, unconditional love, and rational thinking, the more you will slip naturally into these moods.

Though our moods fluctuate naturally, they should never flare up or plummet due to the negative influences of others. We must remember that, ultimately, feeling good begins within us, meaning we have to work hand in hand with our inner emotions to stay balanced.

READ MORE: 5 Steps to controlling your emotions


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