Last updated on Dec 19th, 2019 at 08:41 am

It’s not so much WHAT you’re eating, but more about WHY you’re eating – and it’s all down to how stimulated and happy you are – or not! That’s according to world-renowned human behaviourist, Dr John Demartini

Many of you will already be aware that there is a connection between your mind and body, and it is wise to acknowledge that your perceptions play a pivotal role in your wellbeing.

When you perceive an event to be supportive to your highest values you will tend to open up to it; when you perceive an event to be challenging to your highest values you will tend to close down to it.

This has an impact on your metabolism and your physiology, which is turned on or off accordingly, depending on these initial perceptions of support or challenge.

Overeating, overindulging and poor food choices arise from deep-seated psychological impulses

Therefore, if you want to lose weight in a way that is long-term and most beneficial to your ongoing well-being, it is important to look beyond the food you eat and review the underlying reasons you eat what you do.

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Successful weight loss arises from understanding the mind-body connection.

When your weight or health is not as you would like, it takes no effort to blame outer circumstances for this result. But external circumstances do not determine your destiny as much as your perception of them, and the subsequent decisions and actions you take.

If you are not filling your day with enlightening and inspirational activities you can, and will often, overfill your body with heavier compensations

This is due to over-consuming behaviours generated within your amygdala, deep within your brain.

Addictive, impulsive and immediately gratifying consumptive amygdala behaviours are your body’s way of compensating for unfulfilling and meaningless daily actions

In contrast, when you fill your day with high-priority actions that have deep meaning and that inspire you, the executive centre within your outer forebrain comes on line and self-governs these impulse behaviours.

Therefore, when you have truly inspiring actions planned ahead each day, with foresight, you have more self-governance and eat more moderately. You eat to live more than just live to eat.

Learn to understand what your highest values are (you can find that out here). Then, fill your day with high-priority actions – that is to say, the most inspiring daily actions that you can’t wait to do. In this way, your day won’t fill up with low-priority eating distractions.

A note about body dysmorphia

In the modern age of Photoshop, image filters and aesthetic surgery, it can be easy to become infatuated with a body shape or image that is not realistic for you.

Anytime you see somebody that you admire – who you think is more beautiful, more attractive, and has a more functional body than you – you may find you minimise yourself to them. In doing so, you inject their values, behaviour and their body image into your own, and you compare.

If you do this, your value system can become disoriented, because you’re injecting the values of another person into your life and experiencing conflict and self-loathing.

Every decision you make is based on your own highest values. If you are losing weight to emulate somebody else, you have an internal conflict – a moral dilemma between what you strive for based on your own highest values and what you think you should be doing according to the values of those people that you admire.

This can lead to a dysmorphia between what you would love to be, do or have physically according to your own highest values and what you think you should be, do or have according to their values, affecting your self-image. You don’t think you’re as beautiful as they are, when in fact your body may be doing fine according to your own true highest values.

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