Most marriages go through a rough spot at some point. It can’t be bliss and contentment all the time.
Long-term relationships require hard work and can become extremely difficult at times. During these times, it can be hard to remember why you even tied the knot in the beginning.
Of course, you love your partner. But that doesn’t mean that things can’t still get so bad that you end up constantly thinking about divorce.
However, ending your marriage is a big move to make and you should exhaust all other options before you consider signing on that dotted line.
One option is to take a temporary break
You or your partner could move out for a set period of time or until you’ve made a decision on your next move.
Taking a break means different things to different people, so ensure that you decide on how your break is going to work.
This is not an official separation, but rather some time apart from each other so you can think about your relationship and what you need from your spouse in order for your marriage to work
Taking a break does not mean you start to date other people or act like you’re not still in a committed relationship.
It also doesn’t mean that one of you abandons the responsibilities of running a household, just because you’re not staying there temporarily, especially if you have children. You still need to be a partner, a homeowner and a parent.
Of course, the person who stays in the house is responsible for the day-to-day maintenance of the house.
If taking a break is something you are considering, here are some of the ways it could benefit your relationship:
It gives you both time to think clearly and independently
When you’re living with your spouse and seeing them every single morning and night and all day on weekends, it can become too much. You’re never really alone. They’re always there and when they’re not, it’s only for a short period of time. Thinking clearly isn’t something that automatically happens after 48 hours apart. You need to give it time, as much time as you both need.
When they’re not around for every meal and you’re not constantly aware of their presence, you have the opportunity to think about yourself. You stop considering yourself as part of a couple and as a whole person. This will help you identify what is making you unhappy in your relationship and what you need from your partner in order to make your marriage work.
You’ll both be able to focus on your lives outside of the relationship
Your marriage shouldn’t be the only thing in your life that matters to you. Whether you work full-time or are a stay-at-home parent, you need to have a life outside of your relationship. You need to nurture your friendships and the bonds you have with your family.
You need to focus on your work or a hobby that makes you happy. You need to spend time doing things that make you feel productive and valuable to those around you. And it’s highly unlikely you’ve been able to pay your life outside of your relationship any attention due to all the arguments and discontent in your marriage.
You’ve probably been quite stressed and emotionally exhausted because of your unhappy marriage. When you and your partner take a break, you’ll find that you have more energy and are less anxious, which makes it easier to focus on the other areas of your life.
Many couples make the mistake of forgetting who they are outside of the relationship. Being alone for a while will help you remember, or even discover, who you are as a single person
You’ll only see them or speak to them when you want to
Eventually, if your marriage is meant to be, you will find that you miss your partner and will want to reach out to them. Being on a break doesn’t mean that you can’t see each other or communicate at all. It just means that you only come into contact with them when you both want to. When they’re around all the time, you might forget what you actually like about them because they’re never not there long enough for you to miss them.
When you’ve been on a break for a while, you are likely to find yourself wanting to text your partner a joke only they would get or tell them a story only they would truly appreciate. You may even go on dates once you’ve had enough space. It will give you time to recall the romance and love you once shared.
If your marriage is in trouble and you want to save it, taking a break could be exactly what you and your partner need.