Finding the sweet spot between your thoughts, feelings and emotions and how you approach your loved one is a great way to enhance your relationship

An important part of communicating effectively in any relationship is expressing your thoughts, feelings and emotions. This is especially true when it comes to sharing how you feel with someone near and dear to you. Throughout the day everyone experiences a wide array of feelings and it is only natural for you to want to share these sentiments with someone you love the most. But how exactly do you go about doing this?

Here are a few helpful tips and suggestions on how to share your intimate thoughts and feelings with the one you care about the most:

First, self-reflect

Prior to stating how you feel to a loved one, take a few moments to reflect back on and label what you’re going through. For instance, are you feeling joy and elation over some positive event? Or are you upset about something and have feelings of disappointment? Recognising your thoughts and feelings prior to disclosing can help you organise yourself around exactly what you’d like to say.

For instance, you can start off your conversation by saying, “I’ve really thought this through and I’m feeling xyz.” This can help to set the tone for the conversation with your loved one.

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Share with care

Next, take care to choose the right words that convey the precise meaning of your thoughts and feelings. The right approach can help to foster a deeper connection and improve the current bond with your loved one instead of driving them away.

All too often, people blurt out what they are thinking and feeling without ever considering the ramifications of their words. While there is nothing wrong with expressing how you feel, it is still important to consider how your loved one will receive your message so as not to hurt or offend them. This can also help to avoid fights where both parties may misunderstand each other.

All too often, people blurt out what they are thinking and feeling without ever considering the ramifications of their words

Provide details

Also, do not forget to add the necessary context so that your loved one has a clear picture surrounding why you are feeling and thinking the way you are. Providing as many details as possible will help them understand your perspective. It will also help them understand their role and where they stand when it comes to your feelings.

Thoughtful partners will embrace all the facts and will appreciate you being so forthcoming with as many details as possible to clear things up for them.

Just be yourself

Lastly, be authentic and true to yourself and your relationship. Different personality types express themselves differently to loved ones but it does not matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, you can still be yourself when communicating with someone closest to you. For instance, if you are introverted and do not typically share such feelings, displaying hesitancy before you speak may leave your loved one with feelings of dread for what you may be about to say. Avoid such circumstances by being open, honest and true to your loved one.

Finding the sweet spot between your thoughts, feelings and emotions and how you approach your loved one is a great way to enhance your relationship. This may involve reflecting back on your exact feelings, approaching your loved one with tact and care, providing substantial details, and being yourself no matter what you think your loved one’s reactions will be. You can even share small tokens of appreciation during the conversation to make for an even more enriching experience.

All in all, sharing how you feel is an excellent way to boost your relationship and bring you even closer to the one you love most in your life.

Gwen Lewis is a writer and make-up artist based in Southern California. Because of her passion for beauty and health, she hopes to help others not just look great but feel great! In her free time she loves to stay active and has just taken on learning how to surf. If you want to learn more, follow her on Twitter @GwenEveLewis