My dad is dating the mother of one of my childhood friends. I don’t know how to handle this
My mother died of cancer a year ago. My father loved her through 33 years of marriage, and I know he went through a lot. But I don’t know how to deal with the fact that he seems to be dating the mother of one of my childhood friends. She is a nice person and I know he deserves happiness but I feel like it is too soon, and that him dating someone he knew all throughout their marriage is a betrayal.
I know it doesn’t make sense but I don’t know how to handle this.
Your dad’s ability to embrace life again is a testament to hope – and the power of human connection
Sometimes someone’s behaviour can hurt others terribly, even if they are not doing anything wrong.
Your pain is natural and understandable, and yet your mindset is right in that your dad deserves to find happiness. In truth, his ability to embrace life again is a testament to hope, and a toast to the power of human connection, not a negation of his love for your mom.
That this person knew your family while your mother was still alive may sting more in certain ways – again, your feelings are normal – but it’s a common scenario, as it brings comfort and familiarity. And it can actually help keep your mother’s memory alive, strange as that may seem.
Give yourself time and space – after all, you’re only human
Give yourself time and space to feel all this; it’s part of grieving, and you’re human.
A skilled counsellor can help this transition.
Advice courtesy of clinical psychologist, Andrea Bonior (first published on ‘Washington Post’).
Author: ANA Newswire