Every living thing requires a little TLC, and your marriage is no exception

With everything going on in the lives of the average couple, it’s easy to get stuck in rut…

Now, if you’ve been married for a while, then you’ll know that a marriage rut is a ‘meh’ place to be.

In fact, if your marriage is stressed, there’s no doubt that the rest of your life will be, too. And, that’s because the quality of our relationships ultimately affect the quality of our lives.

Luckily, a rut is something you can climb out of.

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If your marriage is on your stress list, here are five things you can do to de-stress it:

1. Acknowledge that fighting is normal! Agree to disagree

You and your partner are not always going to agree – especially when it comes to things like extended family, kids and finances.

And, that’s OK.

Remind yourself what really counts and focus on the things you both do right (and show appreciation for those things!), instead of the things you might be doing wrong.

2. And, while you’re at it – give each other a clean slate

Sometimes there’s just too much water under the bridge – and you can’t even pinpoint why you’re constantly arguing anymore.

Resentment has no place in your relationship.

Remind yourself that you’re on the same team, and take the opportunity to give each other a clean slate and your relationship (and friendship), a fresh start.

Remind yourself that you’re on the same team, and take the opportunity to give each other a fresh start

3. Try ‘sweating it out’ together

Feeling happier is a natural byproduct of exercise due to the feel-good chemicals (endorphins) that it helps you release.

There’s no one better to share that post-workout high with (and during-workout laughs), than your spouse!

By working out together; you’ll have more energy, less tension and feel happier – all which will help to de-stress your marriage.

4. Consider a digital detox

It’s a fact: less screen time equals more happiness. And, all your relationship may need to de-stress, is a few hours of tech-free time each week.

Without the lure of Whatsapp and social media, you’ll be encouraged to explore healthier activities together and spend intentional time (face to face) together.

5. Avoid the hum-drum of everyday life and add a little spontaneity!

Commit to a day with no obligations, to-dos, and if you can, no kids – and go on a little adventure together!

There’s something about experiencing new things that makes you feel lighter, and excited about life and all it has to offer.

Experiencing something new together could bring you closer together and in turn, help to de-stress your marriage.


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