Last updated on Jan 31st, 2015 at 05:39 pm
Of course, by now almost everyone has heard the doomsday statistics on divorce – the CDC in the United States reports that 50% of all women’s first marriages end in separation or divorce after 20 years, while 33% of all men’s first marriages end in divorce after 10 years.
In light of these discouraging numbers, perhaps we should all collectively examine the reasons that we enter into marriage in the first place.
Without further ado, 5 absolutely terrible reasons to walk down the aisle:
1. What if this is my last chance at happiness?
This kind of thinking, when written out in print, is undeniably tragic and illogical. Nevertheless, many people stick around well past a relationship’s expiration date out of fear: fear of being alone, fear of being unable to attract someone new, fear of going alone to a cousin’s wedding next month, etc.
These fears, large and small, can hold us back and prevent us from doing the truly brave thing of facing the unknown and daring to imagine a better life.
If fear alone is your motivating factor, rethink those vows.
2. The kids/dog/house
Sometimes a relationship can acquire a life of its own; before you know it, you are getting your mail delivered to the same place, rescuing a dog from the shelter, and shopping for strollers together.
When life takes over, it is easy to think of marriage as something that happens to you, rather than a choice you make. But becoming a passive observer in your own life is a recipe for disaster and a terrible reason to get married.