Why do women spend so much time and effort focusing on their flaws and trying not to look like themselves?…
â??Vanity, definitely my favourite sin,â? says Al Pacino with a wicked smile in the last scene of The Devilâ??s Advocate.
I am truly one of the most blessed beings on earth. I am surrounded by gorgeous women daily. And I think I can safely say on behalf of most men that we truly appreciate the heart palpitations you all cause us.
Hell, I think it is the only reason some of us still go to work without a permanent fork sticking out of our necks.
So ladies of all shapes, sizes and sporting affiliations, we thank you for keeping us out of the emergency rooms
But there is also a problem. I have yet to meet a single woman who is totally happy with the way she looks. And it doesnâ??t matter how crazily small the so-called flaw is, it is there, even if it has to be pointed out to us by a microbiologist.
You will insist that we are blind and that you are all in fact hideous.
I am actually waiting for a woman to tell me one day her coccyx is just all wrong and she hates the colour of her liver as well.
I get our obsession with pretty things, but perfection?
It is a fact that we like pretty things, they make us feel good and as humans we have more positive feelings towards things we find attractive. That is why even dreary scientists in white coats and supersize-me glasses spend more of their time and effort saving Johnny Panda bear than the Himalayan Snot snail from becoming extinct.
One of the best cars in the world is a Subaru Impreza, but it has been beaten to death by the ugly stick, therefore very few people have actually seen one.
Most boys, when growing up, will have posters of supercars that look beautiful, but are basically useless at the whole â??driving people aroundâ?? thing.
It is the same with furniture. No matter how comfortable a chair is, we would rather choose something that looks good, even if it makes your eyes water as soon as you sit down.
I understand that we spend money on beauty products; I even understand why people go under the knife. It took me a while to realise that it is more of a personal confidence thing than trying to look like a magazine page for someone else. Even men are cleaning up and suiting up without being told to do so.
One personâ??s Subaru is anotherâ??s Ferrari
But here is the thing: beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And no matter what you might think, that is the truth. Friedrich Nietzsche, a 19th-century German philosopher, wrote that “vanity is the fear of appearing original.”
This basically means that we end up trying our best not to look like ourselves and it becomes an obsession. Think about that for a second. We are all beautiful in one way or another. But we will obsess over the smallest thing and do our best to change what essentially makes us individuals.
I once saw a website of a woman who wants to be anorexic. She says vanity is her favourite sin as well, control is her motive and beauty is her obsession. Scary when itâ??s not just some line from a movie, isnâ??t it?
Taste differs; we are all originals and if there is someone out there who compliments you and finds you attractive, I promise you, like the boy with the poster, he is only focusing on your beauty, not your flaws.
So be grateful, be proud, because you are making his day by just being you and not a copycat of someone who does not really exist.