Tabria Lee-Noonan has always felt a little bit different. She is half black and half white, and she grew up in a predominantly white town outside of Seattle, where she certainly felt like she stood out…
“Half breed. Mulatto. Mutt,” she said. “Those are things you get called a lot.”
Today, she uses dating apps like Tinder and SoulSwipe, but the experiences are always mired in suspicion that men are seeing her as a mixed woman, some kind of exotic – and not just a woman. One message on Tinder compliments her “big, brown eyes,” and she laughs wryly.
“I can’t take this seriously,” she said.
That gut-reaction suspicion is one result of a lifetime of being told that you don’t fit in, that you are different. And not in a good way.
The first time Tabria felt like the object of a man’s fetish, she was a senior in high school.
Hear her story, as well as a conversation with New York Magazine’s Maureen O’Connor, in this episode of “Other: Mixed Race in America.”
(Tell us in the comments below, do you think the situation is similar in South Africa? Have you ever had to deal with the issues that Tabria faces?)
Author: ANA Newswire