What I learned from Kourtney Kardashian’s more-off-than-on relationship with her baby daddy, Scott Disick

I don’t Keep Up With The Kardashians on a regular basis, but I have learned a thing (or six!) from Kourtney Kardashian’s more-off-than-on relationship with her baby daddy, Scott Disick.

I’ve never met Kourtney. I’m not even sure if I follow her on Instagram. I don’t really know anything about her, other than the character she portrays on her family’s popular show.

I’m sure she’s a wonderful person and it appears that she’s a loving mom. But, it only takes one throwback episode of Keeping up with the Kardashians to realise that Kourtney could use some relationship tips from a matchmaker. If she had, her and Scott’s relationship might not have ended the way it did (yes, he was largely to blame, but there are always two sides to every break-up!)

Kourtney constantly denies Scott sex. Relationship Tip #1: Don’t deny your man sex!

Denying your man sex is unfair to both of you! You’re missing out on orgasms, passion, foreplay, bonding, a better night’s sleep, intimacy, exercise and of course awesomeness. Intimacy is the glue that holds a relationship together. When you’re intimate with your partner, you’re showing each other that you care.

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Sex is a great way to recharge at the end of each day and to break up your routine. It also keeps your relationship hot and heavy. Whether you’ve been dating for six months, or six years, don’t you want your relationship to be exciting and spontaneous?

Kourtney is always annoying Scott about something. Relationship Tip #2: Say ‘No’ to nagging

Nagging your partner makes him feel resentful, annoyed, defensive, hurt, upset and inadequate. Need I say more? Say ‘No’ to nagging and focus on only the pleasant things.

Kourtney b*tches at Scott all the time. Relationship Tip #3: Avoid b*tching

Bitching about your man, to your man, is pretty awful. It makes him feel unworthy and drags him down.

Complaining all the time turns you into a negative person. It’s also exhausting. No one wants to be around someone who brings them down.

Instead of moaning and groaning at your man, appreciate what you have and realise all of the great things about him.

Kourtney doesn’t let Scott forget anything he’s done wrong. Relationship Tip #4: Don’t dwell on mistakes

Dwelling on mistakes can quickly make your relationship go sour. No man is perfect. Most men (and women!) occasionally do something wrong. When you focus on the mistakes someone has made, you open the door to resentment and anger.

You want to focus on positive things and avoid negativity!

Kourtney makes Scott sleep in a separate bedroom. Relationship Tip #5: Don’t sleep in separate bedrooms

Sleep is very precious; it’s something everyone needs. If you’re a light sleeper and your partner is a heavy snorer, by all means, give separate bedrooms a try. Some people believe it helps a relationship, but I’m not one of them…

If you care about your partner, it’s essential to want to sleep next to him. Sharing a bed increases intimacy. You should be able to cuddle each other and talk before you go to sleep.

Kourtney never lets Scott go out. Relationship Tip #6: Don’t keep your man locked up

Balance is needed to keep a relationship on track. Your man needs some time to himself. He has to be able to miss you. The same way you enjoy time with your girlfriends, he likes a night with the boys.

Yes, when you have children the expectations change. As a parent, you have to be responsible and set an example for your children. But, there’s nothing wrong with going out for dinner and having a drink or two.

The healthiest relationships are when two people aren’t together 24/7. Encourage your man to spend time with his friends. He’ll love you for thinking of his well-being.