Miranda Ntshangase chats motherhood
Miranda is one busy mom – she runs a business, acts on TV and sings, but her sons, Zakhe (11 months) and Zethembe (4), are the centre of her life.
Tell us a bit about your childhood:
I am a small town girl from Jagersfontein in the Free State. My childhood pretty much consisted of just me and my dad, as my biological mom passed away when I was six months old. Nonetheless, I had a really fun childhood filled with lots of love and laughter, and thanks to my stepmom, I was able to experience motherly love. Growing up as a mixed race child in South Africa had its challenges, but everything has helped me become who I am today.
How was your second pregnancy compared to the first?
What a breeze! The second pregnancy was a wonderful journey unlike the first, which was quite difficult.
Did you have any cravings when you were pregnant?
During my first pregnancy, I craved bananas in the morning, and Coke and ice cream in the evening. With my second pregnancy, all I craved was healthy food. I was always munching on fruit.
Did you have a specific birthing plan for each delivery?
I delivered both my boys via C-section. With the first one, I had a low-lying placenta that covered my cervix. With our second child, we made the decision to have a scheduled surgery.
How have you adjusted to being parents of one child to two kids?
My husband and I are still adjusting. Luckily the age gap between Zakhe and Zethembe is big enough, so Zakhe helps out with his brother a lot and wants to be involved in everything. He is protective of his brother. Some days I don’t know if I’m coming or going, but you do what you can and the rest will take care of itself.
Are your boys different in personality?
Zakhe is an extroverted introvert. Around people he is comfortable with he goes wild, but he can be shy around people he doesn’t know. He loves music, so he beatboxes and pretends the furniture is his drum set.
Zethembe, on the other hand, has a decisive personality, so you always know where you stand with him. If he doesn’t like something he will smack it away or try to signal that he doesn’t like it. If he’s happy with something, he will smile or laugh. He is ticklish and we have a great time taking turns to tickle him.
What’s life like surrounded by only boys at home?
Our home is always buzzing and full of noise and activities from the moment the boys wake up until they go to bed. There is never a dull moment in our house – we are always dealing with bumps and bruises, as my boys are very adventurous.
What is the one baby product that you can’t survive without?
Baby wipes! Baby wipes double up as everything in my house – I use them to wipe bums, faces, messy hands, the floor…
What’s in your nappy bag?
I carry a really cool rucksack as a nappy bag. In it, I have a towel, nappies, wet wipes, bottles, nappy cream, clothes, a changing mat and a dummy. I also put in my things like a wallet and phone, because I don’t like carrying both a handbag and baby bag – it’s just too much admin.
Where do you like to go as a family?
Our favourite place to go is Delta Park in Johannesburg. It has great kids’ activities. Another place we love is Bambanani restaurant in Melville.
What do you do to relax?
Besides date nights, my husband and I take turns to get enough sleep on the weekends. We enjoy watching movies when the children are asleep.
What do you enjoy most about being a mom?
Wow, so many things and I don’t even know where to start. I love…
- Warm hugs and kisses from Zakhe
- Looking at my children sleeping peacefully with no worries in the world
- Zethemebe’s giggles
- Reading to Zakhe in the evening at bedtime
I could go on and on.
How would you describe your parenting style?
I am liberal, but strict on certain things like manners. I’m an avid believer in letting children be explorers of their world and my job is to guide them.
What are you currently working on?
I run a modelling and casting agency, Star Quality Management, for kids and adults. I have been working on my music and I’m launching my first single on 29 March, which I’m looking forward to. I have also signed a contract with the SABC 3 soapie, Isidingo, and I will be returning to Mzansi Magic’s The Queen to play the character Joy.