That men and women are different is one of the most widely known yet mostly ignored facts in relationships.
It is a fact that has been ignored at the cost of many relationships, and just a small adjustment in this area can result in awesome changes.
Generally speaking, women like to storm and men like to solve
When a woman is going through something she will behave in ways that rarely seem rational to observers, like a thunderstorm. It will be all thunder and lightning and then it will be calm.
It’s a storm of emotion but like a storm, it passes
Men, on the other hand, like to solve problems so they will generally offer advice to try to fix, when a man goes into his quiet zone he is running the options.
Men generally don’t storm like women do; they retreat and play the scenarios. If a man’s mouth is closed, then his mind is busy. Sadly, when the mouth is open, the opposite can be true for both men and women.
Where people go wrong is when they fail to respect this difference
Men are so driven to find a solution and get closure that when a woman storms, he pushes harder and harder and she just gets mad. The best thing he can do is to shut his mouth and give her space, without disappearing into his shell.
Likewise, when a man retreats to his shell to think, pressing him for an answer will push him deeper and drive him further away. The best thing she can do is to let him know she is there but let him be until he is ready to come out. The problem is that men want women to behave like men and vice versa.
It’s not an excuse for persistent bad behaviour, but understanding this small difference can bring you peace and save you from some terrible misunderstandings.
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